Posts tagged rape culture

Sexism can’t be ironic because we’re not over it. It’s still massively prevalent. Men still benefit from it, women are still hindered by it. Most women in music videos are required to wear next to nothing, while men have the privilege of keeping their clothes on and earning the same degree of attention, or more. It’s not ironic to put women naked in a music video because it’s an extension of the crap that already floods our screens. It’s not anything new, it’s just more of the same old sexist garbage.

Almost every man we spoke to felt the remarks made to women in the streets were “harmless” and were an attempt at being neighborly. When we asked whether they were similarly neighborly to other men, their defense fell apart. They pointed out the absurdity of infringing on someone’s personal space in public in that way. Yet when we pointed out that these gender-based unsolicited remarks are street harassment by definition, they adamantly disagreed.

[TRIGGER WARNING for rape]

Rachid Zoghlami was convicted of rape and sentenced to two years and eight months in jail in December, after he penetrated his girlfriend with his fingers to determine whether she had been unfaithful.

But a court of appeal in Stockholm ruled that the 28-year-old’s actions were to be viewed as coercion rather than rape since they weren’t driven by “sexual intent”, then reduced his sentence to 18 months behind bars.

Rape is not sex. Rape has no “sexual intent”. It is power and domination exerted over somebody.

Zoghlami, who holds dual Finnish-Tunisian citizenship, admitted to being jealous but said he used no violence against girlfriend Carina Johansson, 30, when using two fingers to “search for sperm.”

Johansson argued otherwise, claiming he ripped off her sweat pants and her underwear after allegedly threatening to perform an “infidelity check.”

The use of violence does not determine rape. The lack of consent does. Rapes with no violence are still rapes.

As Heather Corinna pointed out last night, GMP doesn’t just think men=rapists, they think men=bad. Or, ya know, good, if Royse has labeled them as good – and then clearly still good even if they’re unrepentant rapists. Because men are apparently confused by the concept of consent, which again, super insulting. And wrong, since most men aren’t rapists and aren’t confused by consent. But GMP is arguing that there are good and bad men, and that good men also rape, because consent is hard. Which brings us right back to classic rape apology – I didn’t know it was rape because consent is so confusing! When it’s really not. Actually, GMP doesn’t really believe in bad men and good men, they believe in bad men and men who can’t tell the difference between yes and no. What a shitty view of men.

Rape is really confusing. I mean, how do you know if you’re raping someone? If they’re unconscious and you decide to have sex with them, is that rape? It is? Well, you could have fooled me. It’s just weird, you know — who even knows if the word “no” means “no,” or if the person you’re raping — er, just having consensual sex with — is observing Opposite Day?

Thankfully, someone is looking out for the poor, misunderstood rapists of the world. The Good Men Project, which describes itself as “a community of 21st Century thought leaders around the issue of men’s roles in modern life,” has decided to take a close look at rape. What they’ve found will shock you, if you’re unfamiliar with the site’s general Men’s Rights Advocate Lite bent. Alas, even if you’re familiar with The Good Men Project, you’ll probably be shocked; the posts are generally shocking. Indeed, this is the point where I offer a trigger warning for rape apology, victim-blaming and general awfulness.

Halarnkar then offered as proofa survey that caused indignation in Indialast month: a poll of 370genderspecialists around the world that voted India the worst place to be a woman out of all the G20 countries. It stung – especially as Saudi Arabia was at the second-worst. But the experts were resolute in their choice. “In India, women and girls continue to be sold as chattels, married off as young as 10, burned alive as a result of dowry-related disputes and young girls exploited and abused as domestic slave labour,” said Gulshun Rehman, health programme development adviser at Save the Children UK, who was one of those polled.

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A glance at the Indian media reveals the range of abuse suffered by the nation’s women on a daily basis.

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In June, a father beheaded his 20-year-old daughter with a sword in a village in Rajasthan, western India, parading her bleeding head around as a warning to other young women who might fall in love with a lower-caste boy.

Project Unbreakable gives power to survivors as they reclaim words that were once used against them. These words were used to weaken us, to control us and to shame us into silence: “this is what a real relationship is like… get used to it”, “I own you”, “you’ve got nothing”. These words reflect more than just the mindset of the attacker; they reflect the greater mindset of rape culture—that rape is the fault of the victim, sex is a right not a privilege and that a woman’s sexual status dictates her worth. By reclaiming the words spoken by attackers, survivors diminish the power of those words to hurt them; they are used to shock and confront people into questioning rape culture and its effects. The words were used to disempower victims; they are now used to empower survivors.

We Will Not Be Silent by Gertrude Kennedy

The story of Project Unbreakable.

Trigger Warning: This article contains discussion of rape, sexual assault and abuse.  

Rape Joke in Woody Allen's "Play It Again, Sam" (1972)

Linda (Diane Keaton): Did you read that another Oakland woman was raped?
Allan (Woody Allen): I was nowhere near Oakland!
Linda: Do they know who did it?
Allan: No idea. He must be very clever. You must be on the ball to rape so many women and get away with it.
Linda: If anybody tried to rape me, I'd just pretend to go along with it and then grab a heavy object and let him have it. That is unless I was enjoying it.
Allan: They say it's every woman's secret desire.
Linda: I guess it depends on who's doing the raping.
Allan: Why dwell on morbid subjects? Odds are you'll never get raped.
Linda: Not with my luck.
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Rape jokes are never funny. Woody Allen participating in rape culture? Revolting.

After putting “raped on live TV” between quotation marks in the title, writing that Echaniz had been filmed “appearing to have sex with her under the covers” and “Throughout the incident the female contestant appeared unconscious” too close together was not the best thing. But what did I expect? The Daily Mail, right?